Sometimes life makes it hard to have it together. When I was in my 30s, frantically scrambling through life experiences, I always admired women who, no matter rain or shine, looked like their lives were in order, always classy and fabulous. I knew that it was not about how much money they had, but about the attitude towards life ~ always calm and kind… Then I turned 40 and suddenly felt strong and confident, I became a woman of my own. But as the years went by, life started throwing challenges at me, like the inevitability of parents getting old and needing care, negotiating medical bills, work stresses, and fulfilling family responsibilities. Life became very real and every day became very precious, and I had to learn to to love life the way it really is. Yes, Vivian Green said it brilliantly, I too now had to learn to dance in the rain… So here are five things I use help me to have it together and get through the life challenges thrown my way.
Don’t Blame Yourself for Mistakes
Guilt can drag you down to the ground. No, you are not perfect, but your mistakes don’t define who you are. Look at it as a learning experience which will make you wiser and stronger. Always remember that if you never fail, that can only mean that you haven’t tried, really.
Focus on the Good Things You Have
If you look around, there are many things you can be unhappy about, but then there are also many things you can be grateful for. All we need is home, food, and the people we love. The rest is a bonus we want and work hard for, but not a necessity. So, focus on the positives, don’t compare yourself to others, no one is immune to life’s challenges and difficulties. Celebrate what you have every day. Happiness is based on your perspective.
Hold on Tight Because Things Will Get Better
You know it, you just have to remind yourself when you’re down. No matter what the challenges are, stay strong to withstand them, and tell yourself to believe that your troubles will go away and that the storm will pass.
Don’t Stop Your Life Waiting for the Storm to Pass
Life is hard, but problems and challenges don’t stop time. The world just keeps moving, and that’s a good thing. It forces you to pick yourself up and keep moving forward no matter how hard it feels. So lean on helping hands of loyal friends and get right back into the driver’s seat of your life, continue to do the things you love, keep challenging yourself. Life is be amazing when you learn and grow.
Phew, what do you think of my five tips on how I try to keep it together when my life throws challenges at me? Please share your tips on how you help yourself to keep it together!