One of my missions in life is to be the best mom I can be for my family and the best woman I can be for myself, but I am not going to lie, sometimes my work-life balance looks more like work life juggle. The change is so gradual, that sometimes I don’t notice when the downward spiral starts until it’s in full swing. And like many women, I can give you tons of reasons why I deserve to have a meltdown! But being a working mom, and an autism mom, I have a responsibility to maintain my energy and drive to progress forward. I’ve found that the best way to avoid spiraling is to do develop strong preventative habits. With small investments of time in the right things, I can transform the quality of my life into a much better one.
Prevention is the best way to avoid loosing work-life balance.
1. Go out on dates with your partner (and turn your sex life up a notch).
Once my husband and I started going out on dates regularly (alone or with friends), my mood started improving fairly quickly. Getting a cocktail, unwinding, and letting things go feels so good. Things just don’t seem as intense and as bad as before. And these are probably the best days to schedule sex dates with your man. Yes, I said schedule, because we all know that after long and grueling days, sex is quick to become an afterthought. And I know, this is one of those things most of us have thought at one point or another we’d never do, but it’s honestly a great way to keep that spark going and feel closer to your partner!
2. Give yourself alone time regularly.
Whether it is a night time skincare routine, soaking in a fragrant Lush bubblebath, or time with your favorite book, your alone time is absolutely necessary to feel that you are more than a hard working mom, and that you are an amazing woman. Just as it’s important to schedule partner dates, it’s essential to schedule solo dates! Having an empty house is rare for many of us, but even claiming the bedroom and bathroom for an evening and having my husband take care of Alex for those couple of hours, is wonderful. I can take a longer than usual shower, apply a mask, catch up on reading, watch Netflix, and feel totally pampered without leaving the house.
3. Hang out with your girlfriends regularly.
We must not forget about our girlfriends! It is very difficult to find time for friends when you barely have time for yourself, but again, scheduling is a must. It doesn’t have to be often, or for a big chunk of the day. A bi-weekly coffee date, happy hour, or monthly dinner can give you that bestie time you need. I truly believe that fostering our friendships is special and necessary. You feel like yourself again, and girlfriends are a whole other type of bond, one that is different even from that I have with my man!
I hope this is helpful! The key, I think, is to believe in the importance of your sanity and happiness, and make time for all these breaks to become a part of your lifestyle. It is really easy to veg out in the couch in those few and far between free moments we have, but being intentional about relaxing activities is so worth the effort.
How do you keep your work-life balance? Please share your tips! I also have a post on thoughts and tips on Dressing Up for Work Life Balance so if you liked this, check that out too!
♡ Zuma A.
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